I was raised by rape apologists. I was raised in a home that taught me some girls are asking for it. I was taught that as long as I was careful, more modest, home early, that it was ok for me to be safe and for someone else to get raped, because they weren't as careful as I. I had my body policed for the comfort of the males around me. I was taught that my autonomy is secondary to the needs of the men in my life. I was told that if I dressed a certain way, that if I drank too much, that if I was in the "wrong" part of town, that if I was out "too late", my sexual assault was my fault. I knew violent, forcible rape was wrong, but it was insinuated that it was only wrong if the women did everything "right" to prevent it. I was shown that my needs as a girl and later as a woman were not as important as the needs of the boys and men around me. I was taught that men are rapists and women are victims. I was taught that the victim's behavior should be scr